Your circle of friends influence who you become in life. Life happens, so you do not always have control over who comes into your life, but you decide who allow to stay, who you pursue, and who you allow to walk back out. Ideally, you should surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who do not. Here are some signs that you are in the presence of the great friends:
They always have time. They gladly create space for you, even when it’s inconvenient for them. The relationship has regular communication and is built on commitment. If you have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, it means that they truly do not care about you. Never beg someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must.
They believe in your dreams and abilities. They never make you feel like your goals are impossible. Instead, they motivate and try to help you to reach them. Around these people, you feel supported and free to live your truth. The only people that will get mad at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.
They are honest and open with you. You feel like you can both ask and tell them anything. If someone is this way with you, they are lovingly respecting you and your relationship. Those who avoid the truth and tell you only what you want to hear do so for their own benefit, not yours. And you would be unlovingly disrespecting yourself by putting up with it.
They are never jealous of what you have. In fact, true friends are always genuinely happy and proud to see you do well in life. A little bit of envy is ok, but when someone is excessively envious of what you have or who you are, there’s a good chance that they really want to take it from you. Also, excessive envy doesn’t tell you how much someone admires you, it tells you how much they dislike themselves. Real happiness and contentment starts from within.
They inspire you to be non-judgmental or forgiving. Your past stays in the past. They refuse to judge others by their skin color or their outer beauty, in order to find out who they really are. It is amazing the quality of people you will learn about and meet in this world if you can simply get past the fact that lots of people are not dressing and living the way you do. Avoid judgmental people at all costs.
They want you to be yourself. These people see you the way you are, and not as they wish to think you are. Spend even more time with those who truly know about you, and who love and respect you anyway. If someone expects you to be someone you’re not, take a step back. It’s wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by acting like someone you’re not. It’s easier to nurse a little heartache and meet someone new, than it is to piece together your own shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space within your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space within yourself where YOU used to be.